@fiona interesting article, and fair cop, I suppose. I’m am, however, a product of my environment, and my aesthetic has already been ingrained. I abhor vanity, the obsession with one’s appearance—across gender lines—and I think much of “our” culture is thick with it these days. In any case, my original comment was simply meant to offer some support to the OP, and to give an alternate perspective to the one she’s been encountering. As you see my comment as unhelpful (ref: the linked article) I’ll tip my hat now and leave you to it.